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 babybread - (themirrorscold)
 
08:53pm 12/04/2007
 
 
~that.girl~ posting in ~BABY BATTER * BUN IN THE OVEN * BABY BREAD~
okay, i don't know how to start this.

except i am very sad. i wasn't before today. everything was fine.

but i am feeling overwhelmed and alysen is being a complete brathead. she doesn't listen to ANYTHING until i yell at her, and then she looks so sad. i feel so bad when she looks like that. she comes to me and says "i love you mom, i love you" and wants hugs. it's like why does she have to push me to be that mad??? i shouldn't have to ask her things 10 freaking times!!!! i even had to spank her at playgroup today. (thank you for not giving my your opinions on spanking. i was spanked, and i spank in appropriate situations. end of discussion.) it's so hard because i can't lift her, so i can't just carry her out of someplace like i usually would if she's being bad. i just gave jayna her first bath... and i felt like i couldn't "enjoy" it like i did with alysen. i had alysen under my feet and trav in the living room watching tv with the kids... i don't know. then i had to yell at alysen because she knocked the baby shampoo down off the counter. my nerves are just burned. this brings me to not wanting to move... it will be me alone with both of them for hours longer than i am now, and alysen doesn't listen to me at all. plus i won't even have any friends to go hang out with so i'll be all lonely. plus i don't want to pack. i am just .... overwhelmed.

anyway. thanks for listening. you don't even have to comment.
(((HUGS))))
location: home
mood: sadsad
music: the fifth element (i hate this movie)
 
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 coupesetique
 
02:36am 13/04/2007 (UTC)
 
 
That's Betsy Jesusita Barefoot to you
{{{{Hugs}}}}}
 
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 pancakes_house
 
02:45am 13/04/2007 (UTC)
 
 
Angela
Awww. I'm sorry it's rough for you right now. It sounds tough to adjust to having a new baby. Things will settle down soon!!
 
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 ncpeen
 
03:16am 13/04/2007 (UTC)
 
 
Hugs!
I'm sorry you are having a rough time. I wish I could help.
Things will settle soon & hopefully be more adjusted.
 
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 eledaisy
 
03:19am 13/04/2007 (UTC)
 
 
eledaisy
You just had a huge change. Alysen is adjusting, too. Everything is an adjustment. One day at a time, love. If you need anything let me know. I can call you anytime. Unlimited long distance & bedrest - I have nothing but time, especially if you want to talk. ♥
 
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 themirrorscold
 
03:22am 13/04/2007 (UTC)
 
 
~that.girl~
i'll be home all day tomorrow if you're up to it. you can call me if you want to: 763.205.5936

i might not be sad tomorrow but it would be fun to talk to you! don't feel "obligated" though.

i know; we're adjusting. change and i aren't *that* great of friends anyway. when i was little my mom had to tell me like 6 months ahead of time when she was going on a business trip and i still would freak out. i'm surprised i didn't get all weird when alysen was born... but i didn't. did you experience anything when skylar was born??
 
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 eledaisy
 
03:30am 13/04/2007 (UTC)
 
 
eledaisy
I'll for sure call you tomorrow. Around 11 or 12 PST. :p

With Skyler it was all very emotional. I had PPD with both of the girls. With Skyler it wasn't too bad because I was in a better place, but it was still difficult. Ryleigh rebelled & decided she didn't need to listen anymore, but the more we included her in helping with Skyler, the better she did. She was only a few weeks away from 2 at the time so it was a little easier for her to cope because she was younger. & getting Ryleigh involved sucked because I was having so many recovery problems. Eventually, you work out a system, but it takes a lot of trial & error. I'll talk more tomorrow. ♥
 
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 themirrorscold
 
03:31am 13/04/2007 (UTC)
 
 
~that.girl~
i'm sorry i spelled her name wrong. i totally know it's "er", too. :(

cool... i'd really like your input. i try to include alysen but she says "no" when i ask her stuff, but wants to help when it's not a possiblity. *sigh*
so... if you're up for it, call me. :)
 
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 foreverbeingnow
 
03:33am 13/04/2007 (UTC)
 
 
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I'm sorry, I can definitely relate.
I still can't believe Meghan is 6 months old, but it feels liike yesterday. Sean is just beginning to realize her existence.
 
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 themirrorscold
 
03:41am 13/04/2007 (UTC)
 
 
~that.girl~: purple love
i knew it would be different/hard/harder, whatever but i t's just so different now that she's *here*.

((HUGS))

alysen LOVES jayna, she just doesn't like me very much. or so it feels.
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 wravenmadd
 
06:08am 13/04/2007 (UTC)
 
 
.:melly:.: sad baby!
lydia's always been a pusher, i can't think of a time i ever asked her to do something less than three times at least before she'd do it. so i know what you mean, it's frustrating!

she loves you, and she loves jayna, but she's adjusting to not being the center of mommy's world anymore, so she's probably just acting out. sure she's got older sibs but they don't live with you full time, so it's not the same. jayna is different, she's there all the time, it's a whole new thing for her.

you need to talk, and i'm here. what a marvelous coincidence. ♥ (i, too, have unlimited long distance) ;)
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 _bird_mad_girl_
 
12:57pm 13/04/2007 (UTC)
 
 
When Olivia was first born I was very overwhelmed too. Andy didn't take any time off work so I was alone with a 2 year and a new born. Ash was and still is the same way as Alysen. He does not listen until I am yelling at him. She is just jealous and wants your attention. Negative attention is still attention. You should try to have time for just you and Alysen without Jayna. Even if it's just a bath. That is what worked for Ash. If you need anything just call or email me!
 
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 themirrorscold
 
02:03pm 13/04/2007 (UTC)
 
 
~that.girl~
YES!!!!!!!!! i am alone with them too and pretty much have been since i got home from the hospital. (my friend jacki820 came over one day) i was just thinking to myself right now (jayna hasn't woken up yet) because it's just me & alysen that i bet she's enjoying this. so i should go and cuddle with her. thanks hope!!!! your box got here yesterday but i haven't opened it yet. i'll do it today. (so much going on! i didn't even get to that yesterday) i still am sending you something but once again, i'm so behind on stuff... but i'm going to, just so you know. ♥
 
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 _bird_mad_girl_
 
05:01pm 13/04/2007 (UTC)
 
 
Andy was suppose to have sent it weeks ago but alas he didn't.

I know you feel overwhelmed right now but you will get into a routine soon and things won't seem so chaotic. Alysen will get use to Jayna and she won't be fighting for your attention. It took Ash about 2 months and he realized she was not leaving.

Just remember I am only a phone call away and if I have to probably a 3 day drive :-)
 
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 themirrorscold
 
05:09pm 13/04/2007 (UTC)
 
 
~that.girl~
wouldn't that be awesome if you really COULD come?? or me go see you?? maybe someday, huh??

today is much better. yesterday was super busy and today we're just at home so it's much more *calm*. i feel lots better. for the time being anyway. :P

thanks for everything hope, i super appreciate you!
 
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 dragonankh
 
03:16pm 13/04/2007 (UTC)
 
 
K: Hugs
*hugs* im so sorry you're going through this :( i wish i could come over and help you out

*soothing hugs* ♥
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 themirrorscold
 
05:04pm 13/04/2007 (UTC)
 
 
~that.girl~
thanks, k. i'm alot better today. i think that yesterday was just really busy and alysen was being naughty and i was just overwhelmed. i'm still worried about moving but everything is better today.
i appreciate the *soothing hugs*!
love you.
 
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 getlive
 
07:53pm 13/04/2007 (UTC)
 
 
Honorary Fraulein of the Forest
I wish I had some sage words of advice, but I don't. You pretty much fly by the seat of your pants. And Alysen will be crabby at first, then she'll realize she's not center of the universe and then it'll be fine! ;) Of course, by then you'll be dealing with the wonderful world of Jayna and all her lovely little quirks you haven't discovered yet. Odds are whatever makes Alysen happy will make Jayna really cranky. Well, that was how it was here, anyway.

It'll all even out soon. I hate hormones, don't you? :)
 
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